Welcome to Olivia's Daughter....a blog that I created in March 2010 to document my blessed journey of healing. Since I began this blog, my mother has gone home to be with the Lord along with my son, Chris Reshaud Jordan, who was murdered in October 2009. After these two devastating events, I felt forsaken by God. I cried out to the Lord seeking my purpose in life. Throughout this experience, I had to make the choice to surrender to a life of worthlessness or to live my life to the fullest, a life filled with abundance and love.


God has strengthened me. I am seeking Him daily and and working to live in His will which is leading me to my purpose and passion. I think of Chris and Olivia constantly, but I have turned this over to God. I want God to use me as his vessel giving Him the glory.

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Day 62

Day 62

Thank You Lord ! I want to thank you for daily blessing my family and friends, for providing and Your protection. I realize your power daily.

Yesterday was real good. I was off work and had an opportunity to rest and reflect. I did workout and do True Image. Wow I hadn’t worked out in a few days and I could feel the difference, for the past two weeks my schedule has only allowed me to workout one day a week, I must get back to 2 days or even 3 days per week. I like being able to do the routine without feeling totally exhausted. Friday True Image will celebrate TG leaving to return to Florida. This will be fun! I am praying regarding True Image and listening to God for how he plans to use me.

I attended Life Group, Fit for the King, and we had a wonderful fellowship, movie, Fork over Knives and a delicious potluck. The movie is such a blessing. I am understanding the effects of meats in my diet and needing direction on whether I will pursue a plant based diet.

I went to Avalon yesterday and did my first exchange, I took in some pieces I could not wear and also some shoes which the heels were extremely high, and now they are too large. I found a new boutique a few doors down from Avalon. The pricing was a bit expensive but they are one of a kind pieces. I was able to get one really nice bell sleeve, with pearl embellishment on the front. I purchased a tank to wear underneath to keep it modest J I will pair it with jeans and wear it during the holidays.

I am feeling so much better about life and I owe this all to God. I am needing God more and allowing Him to use me.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Day 60 - T & T

Praise the Lord ! Praise the Lord ! All praises be to God. He is oh so magnificent. Lord I thank You for everything. You are my master, please use me as your servant. Lord continue to help me walk in Your will.

Holiday weekend was spent with family. My family, love them to pieces J I had family come in from Michigan and we really enjoyed each other’s company. I had asked the Lord to bless our fellowships and give us peace. My cousin Monica and I went out on Black Friday, but to us it was like an ordinary shopping day. We usually hang out and shop anyway. We did go to the Mac counter at Nordstrom. I got my first department store makeup brush J And I am pleased to say it was well worth my investment. It is a eyeliner brush. The thing with proper makeup application is having the right tools and the techinique (T & T). The makeup artist was a Bobbi Brown artist and she took time with us showing us how to apply and the real importance of having the right tool to get the desired look. I told her I had a similar brush and she convinced me it was not the same and that she had done the research. So I trusted her professional recommendation and purchased the brush. Although I did not make her gel liner. I have several gel liners and she also showed me a simple techinique to smoke out my liner using black eyeshadow. Fabulous look. I appreciate her help, she even told us a special hair wrap cream that we picked up from the local hair store. Really nice sales person.

Saturday night we went to Gobble Groove, it was really nice music. Had a really nice time and we would do it again. My cousin has already texted me asking to find some jazz for the Christmas holiday.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Day 55 - First Vanity then Sanity - Absolutely priceless

Praise God ! Praise God ! Praise God !

I am forever grateful for Your love for me and my family. I am happy about having good family and friends in my life. Lord allow me to be a means of support ! I want to be Your vessel to demonstrate love and worship to You. Lord thank You for bending relationships.

Lord bless this holiday weekend as I prepare to be with family and friends. Let us feel Your peace and love amongst us. Lord food is important in fellowships, help me deal with keeping my focus on my plate.

Yesterday was cool, I had a visit from a friend who brought me sugar and flour L
She plans to make lifestyle change tonight and will attend tonight’s meeting. God is able! She is open to the change and wants God’s blessings.

First there was Vanity then Sanity – I love this because for me walking into my lifestyle change I was strictly seeking vanity. I wanted to look amazing. I can’t lie, it is the truth. Gradually working this program I am learning so much about me and God’s love and how he provides for me. I feel good from the inside out, the peace that I now have is priceless. Absolutely priceless ! I like me, I like me, I love me ! God has given me what I need to get along with me and love me. During this holiday season in my vanity and with peace in my heart, I can go to public events without fearing that I am ugly and unworthy. I can be of support to others, without worrying about myself. I don’t have to hide as I have hidden for so long, sooooo long ! Being overweight kept me from a life of total worship to God. I was in bondage to my self image, feeling unworthy and ugly. I now can worship and live a life for God without thinking about me all the time and living in pity for myself. When I say God can do ANYTHING I mean he can do ANYTHING ! I thought I could never make peace with God and myself. He has shown me I can have a life of abundance. I am now more giving of myself, more open to feel life and help others.

Beauty Corner – Well I made my follow up dermatology appt for the week of December when I am on vacation. I am loving the results of the products I was given. I need to now find out how I treat my skin in the long-term. I don’t want to overuse the product. Hopefully there will be more samples J Help me Lord ! Did I mention I am now in a size 10 jeans, I think I did yesterday J This weekend I am sure I will be doing makeup applications for my cousins when we go to the jazz set on Saturday. Looking forward to this, she likes the nude look I applied on her for reception in Michigan.
True Image – Saturday is my day of weigh in. I am looking forward to it. I will most likely exercise before weigh in to get my 2 days in. I worked out last night at True Image for 30 minutes then left to go to the grocery store to pick up items for the holiday. I love working with the large exercise balls. They are good for toning.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving !

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Day 54 - Providing my NEEDS - it feels nice

ALL praises be to God ! ALL praises be to God ! You are worthy of ALL my praises. You are within me healing me and making be know that I am worthy of Your LOVE. God You comfort and protect and provide for me. Lord guide me lead me in the way YOU desire me to go. Free me from my bondages. Free me Lord !


Yesterday was awesome. I attended my FA meeting and heard the listened as my friend was the qualifier. She allowed the Lord to use her in a magnificent way. I was so proud of her. We help each other along this journey along with our sponsor. Our sponsor is so caring and really allows God to use her. For this I am grateful.

This Thanksgiving I will be worshiping God through my life, and not through food, I will be loving on my family and friends. This I am looking forward to.

On my way to my FA meeting I stopped at a retail store to exchange a top. I am so grateful they had my correct size. While I was there I tried on about 3 pairs of jeans, Lavisa had trained me how to shop for jeans and how to get the fit for my body. My current 1 pair of jeans which I purchased about 6 weeks ago was sagging. I was in disbelief, because I am in maintaince and I am not weighing everyday, trusting God to do his will. I was thinking well maybe just maybe they are stretched out of shape, and then Lavisa said you need to go down a size or two. So looking in the mirror and taking her advice I took 3 pair of size 10 jeans into the dressing room. To my disbelief they fit perfectly, just as the size 12 had fit approximately 6 weeks prior. I am not into the numbers of weight as I had been previously, so I am not even going to say how many pounds I lost since then. But I got the size 10 jeans on right now. Right now and they fit nicely. Last night at FA one of the women who shared said some words that encouraged me, she talked about vanity and said she appreciate the vanity. She does not dismiss it and how she liked fitting into little jeans and being able to wear regular size clothing, without going into Lane Bryant and the plus size departments. My spirit agreed with her, it does feel nice. It feels nice to look in the mirror and see me and love me for who God designed me to be, my true image. I love accepting invitations to go out in public without first thinking I am overweight, I am ashamed of myself, I hate myself, what will I wear, I can’t fit anything. Then avoiding the invitation and staying home eating the night away, only feeling miserable and increasing my depression.

Lord You know me and provided me with what I NEEDED.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Day 53

Day 53

Dear Lord you are so awesome in all Your power. I am wanting to give You thanks right now for all Your goodness. Thank You for your favor, grace and mercy, Lord ! You are everything.

This weekend was productive. Very very busy. I did most of what I set out to do. Dominique’s party was nice, I got to meet all her roommates. They are really nice and they have good order to their living situation. Lord I am grateful to You for this. Nique seemed really pleased with her party. I made sure I left real early so that I would be ready for worship and praise.

Missions Sunday was awesome. Testimonies regarding service and evangelism was geared toward Kingdom Building. After church I went to dinner with a couple of friends.
We had wonderful fellowship and really good food.

It’s Monday, Let’s work !

Friday, November 18, 2011

Day 50




Thank you Lord, strengthen me and allow me to move in the path that You have set for me. Lord I need Your help ! I trust that You love me.

Lord I need You to help me stay in the moment where there is Peace.

Yesterday was cool, I skipped workout and turned in another direction which throws off my perfectly planned week LOL But it is ok, I did something that I enjoyed. I will most likely workout in the a.m. from 8 til 9 then go to my ministry meeting at NCBF. I had a delcious dinner, with ground lean, salad and fresh string beans. I will be making more beans really soon.

Today and tomorrow are gonna be busy. I need strength to get things done. I am doing the food for Nique’s party. I am keeping it simple; wing dings, ranch, fruit, salad. I plan to have fun. So today, I have to sort of do errands I would normally do tomorrow. YEAH ! I have a busy evening, I took care of some of my weekend errands yesterday.

Beauty Corner – Tips for Vintage shopping, found a delightful vintage dress. Really cute 6 bucks, yes 6 bucks some of the threads were coming loose in the seam so she marked it ½ off. I was happy about that. I will stitch it with my sewing machine. Loose seams can be expected in vintage clothing. I learn more and more as I shop vintage, I am learning to pay careful attention to seams and dry rotting. Loose seams is ok, dry rotten not so good. Also some of the items have been dry cleaned many have not so drying cleaning is necessary and should be factored into the cost of the item. I am finding that shopping for vintage clothing is fairly reasonably in cost and shopping at the right store prices can be negotiated. Also try on try on, vintage items can run smaller than indicated. Sometimes. Another good reason to try on is so that to see if the item is a good choice for you. The 6 dollar dress I tried on, on the rack looked undesirable, but my institnct said try it on. When I did it was lovely, ladylike and charming. Paired with right accessories it will work for me and my taste. The length was right and it had long sleeves. Perfect combination for me. These are things I love in a dress. It also came with the original belt which is a true treasure. These clothes are timeless and with proper care will grow in value. Finding unique outwear is fantastic, I saw a full length 70s leather coat, excellent condition for 50 bucks. Yeah it was real leather good leather, but I felt I had enough. I may do a trade of some larger sizes in my closet to get it. We will see.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Day 49 - Still working the plan

Lord You are magnificent and so worthy of the praise. You are in me and I feel Your presence. Lord give me a pure heart and a pure mind. Remove from me that what blocks me from You. Help me in this process. Lord I am grateful. Bless others and provide for their needs. Thank You !

Yesterday was cool ! I went to see Ms. Juanita and she has relocated. I used the time under the dryer to relax and browse through magazines. I then went home, had some quiet time and ate the dinner I had prepared the day before. I talked to Nique last night and put together a menu for her 25th celebration. She is expecting 50 people. WOW ! I will be doing some shopping and cooking Saturday. YES ! I want to get her a special gift for the BIG 25. I love her sooooo much ! She is my sweet and loving blessing.

Beauty Corner: This morning I remembered to order my black soap. I need to keep black soap in my life LOL It exfoliates lovely and moisturizes well. I ordered 4 bars this should last me through the winter and into the spring. I don’t use it on my face as my face is sensitive and I got breakouts. I wore the jeans my friend gave me they fit really well. She is so sweet, I must do something for her. She has an eye for jeans and good cuts. I have to pick up some items today from the drug store. I may stop in at Avalon and see what’s new. I will pick up a sewing machine to do some alterations. I have to get it today or tomorrow, Saturday will be busy for me.

True Image - I will be working out tonight. I will be working to tone, not so much cardio. Oh yeah, tonight is the night Debbie/Kathy want to take my photo to add to the wall. I have to remember ! Debbie will be there tonight.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Day 48

Day 48

Lord You are so worthy ! You are excellent in Your power and Your love. I give You the honor and the glory in my life and in my daily worship. Lord help me live a life of worship.

Yesterday was a really good use of time ! I had someone come over and help me do some organizing. We got things together, I need to do some follow up and have Tony hang me some racks for storage. Next I will have her help me breakdown the porch and basement.

I did True Image it was a good workout, good toning throughout exercise. I don’t stress going to workout now. The extra stress of losing is gone. Now I am maintaining. I personally want to lose 3 to 4 more lbs. But I am not pushing for it to happen right now at least by the first of the year.

Last night I cooked my dinner for tonight, I made fresh string beans with turkey meat. Delicious, Delicious, Delicious. I brought some for work today to have with my lunch and I will eat them throughout the week for lunch and dinner. I am thankful to God for giving me the energy to pick those string beans J

Tonight I see Ms. Juanita for a evening of pampering, It will be nice, she is in her new location. I want to make the Town Hall meeting at the church if I get out in time.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Day 47 - It is what it is - 200 Posts

Day 47 – It is what it is

Lord I give You the Honor and the Praise for my life and my testimony. You are always present in my life. You give me Peace in time of trouble. Lord bless my home and allows Peace to flow. Give me good words, make me a Godly example.

My work day yesterday was very frustrating. Very frustrating. Lots of politics but I turned those issues over to my supervisor who worked it out. It was not my battle. I was able to work with the person, the youth in front of me and counsel. I thank the Lord for giving me the knowledge to know I had no control.

Today is a new day and I am working out some of the politics. I am in a much better place to work things out today. I don’t feel responsible and making the phone calls and emails to hopefully make things happen on this case. It is what it is LOL Got to keep it moving.

This evening I have arranged for a helper to come over and assist me in some household organizing. I know when I need help in this area and it is time, to break things down and begin to declutter and make sense of things.

I did not make my FA meeting last night, I pulled in the parking lot, parked and decided I would not go in. It was storming and I am not a real good night driver, and there were tornado warnings. So I pulled out and went home.

I am praying today will be productive. I plan to go home show the young lady what needs to be done and then run to True Image for my 1 of 2 workouts for this week. Yes ! 1 of 2 instead of 1 of 3. I will then go to Wal-Mart and purchase a sewing machine. I need one to do minor alterations. Tailoring is so expensive. I will give away, swap or sell other items or send some out for professional tailoring. Especially the items with linings, I will practice on some items with linings first. Items that are not major. I purchased a vintage red crop jacket, that I would like to wear during the holidays and it needs a seam or two. Also a vintage dress that I need to run seams through the entire dress to reinforce the seams. It was made in the 1940s or 50s so it definitively needs some reinforcement. The price I would pay a tailor to do it is the cost of my new sewing machine, so it will have paid for itself in one project.

Beauty – My Urban Decay – All Nighter arrived, I used it today, and I will keep an eye on it to see its lasting power. I am working with my Nars blush, the color is intense so I have to blend, blend, blend. After blending it gives a natural lovely glow. My Mac Fix is one of my number 1 stables. The effect of it gives a dewy effect that is one of make up artist secrets. I am trusting that the All Nighter pleases me as well. I used my Elf highlighter today instead of the YSL. YSL is like “top shelf” and will be used as I feel it is needed. I love the smoothness of the texture. The texture allows it is blend into the skin well. OH yes, OH yes, the Clarisonic is off the chain. That’s all I can say, it is the bomb, bomb, bomb. The texture of my skin has improved and I am seeing far far far less breakouts. It cleans down into the pores and brings out impurities. My night time regiment includes the Clarisonic, I have not used it in the a.m. Maybe I will start after a couple more weeks, I did not want to shock my skin so I gradually incorporated the Clarisonic. The Retin A is awesome, it did what the reviews say it does. I used it alone for about 2 months and now I used it in the evening to build, I use it first, then put on hope in a jar (philosophy) and then some nights I use the mild moisturizer recommended by my dermatologist. I am seeing positive results. So if you reading this and have skin issues or even if you don’t I recommend the Clarisonic. Beauty Guru’s around the nation use the Clarisonic.

Healthy Life Style – this morning I purchased lots of string beans, I plan to get them together today or tomorrow evening. I got turkey necks and backs to season them with and a container of turkey stock to boil them in. I will add some sliced onions , garlic powder, pepper and salt. I will freeze these individually for meals. Yummy Yummy

Monday, November 14, 2011

Day 46 - Order



Day 46

Thank You Lord for allowing me to know You and appreciate You. I am so grateful to recognize Your power. I love You and know that You want the best for me. Lord lead me guide and bless me. I am asking You because I feel I am ready, but You know me best.

I had a wonderful weekend, I was able to bless others and others blessed me. I was a bit busy but got a lot accomplished. Saturday was fun shopping with a friend, we went to Chelsea’s and got some really really nice deals. I was able to pick up a 40s or 50s three quarter length coat. I also got a fox tail to wear it is really cute and it was priced reasonably.

Tree wants one I will take her over there in the next couple of weeks. This Saturday is dedicated to Nique it is her birthday weekend, and I am preparing the set up and preparing food. I will keep it a simple menu as not to stress us all out. It will be fun ! I may sleep at her house overnight and come home in the morning and get ready for service. This Saturday I plan to attend Knife over Forks at the new Stephanie Tubbs-Jones building. I want to support Sandy and see the documentary.

I went to True Image Saturday morning at 7:30 a.m. yes 7:30 AM to weigh in. I now weigh in every other week instead of weekly as I am in their maintenance phase. I had dropped 2 lbs, which was totally ok with me. I need to slow down my weight loss as I only want to lose 4 more lbs. These pounds don’t have to be lost immediately, I am not stressing over the last 4 lbs. Now my sponsor may have another goal for me which we will negotiate.

Ms. Bell and I plan to go jean shopping in a few weeks. She is an awesome jean shopper we are going to go to Buckle. She suggested I get a nice belt to wear with my jeans, she suggested TJ Maxx. I am out of the loop when it comes to jeans so she is my jean stylist.

Beauty - my Nars blush came, it is radiant and has a nice glow. But you can not have a heavy hand. It needs to be blended well. But it is beautiful. Also my YSL highlighter came, I will do a test tomorrow and compare it to my ELF highlighter. I will use one under one eye and the other under the other to determine the length of wear and if it cakes. I will say it is of the smoothest texture. I am pleased with both purchases. I am awaiting my Urban Decay -All nighter- I welcome this as I am not a person who touches up makeup. So this purchase should serve me well. Oh yeah, check out my black boots, they are really comfortable.

Yesterday I received a compliment from someone’s opinion I trust. It was nice and I appreciated it. I am humbled by everyone’s compliments and love showed toward my journey. I pray I am a testimony to someone and that God will bless others by what He has done for me.

I have to get some things in order in my life NOW !

Friday, November 11, 2011

Day 43

Lord You are so awesome ! You are my companion and my best friend. For this I am grateful. You are with me when I am lonely, you are a constant friend in times of needs.

Yesterday was yesterday ! Nothing stands out and hits me in the face. I worked out after work and did some serious toning. I love my True Image support team. After that I did stop in at one of my favorite Vintage dress shops and I got a crop red blazer for 12 bucks, it was made in Paris. The structure of the jacket is the bomb. I put some thought to how I would put things together with it. I have two pair of pants that would work really really well, I am thinking of using it as a holiday must wear. I first have to take it to the tailor it needs some minor adjustments to give it a more tailored look. It will be worth the investment of having it tailored. I also need to take a black leather skirt I purchased last weekend, I would like for the jailor to take off the band and work in a tad bit of elastic so that it has a better fit. I love the skirt, it is black and a nice basic piece for my wardrobe. It is long and drops below the calf. Very ladylike and nice, the leather is real nice. I can pair it with turtle necks or long sleeve Ts and do some other layering using different textures. I have a vintage black velvet vest that would work nicely with it, with some sort of pop of color under the vest.

Oh yeah, guess what it is a pretty red. If you know me you know I have not always favored the color red in my wardrobe. Since the wedding in September I have seen red in a whole new way. Now remember it is a crop jacket, meaning it is short, so there is not a lot of red. I will pair it with black and simple jewelry and some fancy boots and it will be cool. I also picked up a nice belt for 10 bucks. It will look nice to snitch in some items in my wardrobe.

Tomorrow I will attend the funeral of my Life Group’s leaders mother at 9:00 a.m. She is such a wonderful woman of God, I want to go and support her. After this Dominique and I will be together, we will plan her birthday party which is the next weekend on the 19th. I am praying for a wonderful time with my daughter tomorrow. She is such a wonderful woman. She is kind and thoughtful. We will hang out and have lunch together and maybe do some vintage shopping since she lives on the west side. Chelsea’s here we come.

I weighed myself this morning and I had not lost, any more since Monday. Thank You Lord, I am not wanting to lose too much more as I am in maintenance for True Image. Now FA may have another plan for me, we will see. But I am feeling comfortable with my appearance.

I pray I have a nice stress free weekend with family and friends. Sunday I will be attending a FA meeting and taking a friend to hear about the program. God is such a blessing to us. I am expecting Sunday worship service and the Word to feed my soul.

Chat with you Monday !

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Day 42 - God is GOOD!

I am coming to you Lord with a heart of Thanksgiving. Thanking You for everything. Lord please help me with areas of my life that I need help with, and you are able and more than capable of helping me. My insecurities show up and they are not pleasing to You and not in line with Kingdom building.

Yesterday was hump day I day that I was lead to give God his glory. I went to prayer service and then to my Life Group. It was really good prayer service, full of thanksgiving all to Your glory. We learned that our Life Group leader’s mother passed away. Lord we were grateful that she and her mother were on good terms. Thank You Lord.

I have been working the FA program and the plan continues to be a blessing to me, friends and to family. Tree and two of her dear friends went to FA . God is GOOD! My subject line of the first email I received today was entitled God is GOOD! It was from one of my FA fellows. Communicating is an important piece of the FA program.

Today is a relaxed look for me at work, I have True Image after work. I got to get my workout on. I actually wore some jeans and a long sleeve tee and layered it with a H&M sweater. I didn’t feel like to much fussing around this morning. Wanted to keep it simple. It is more a weekend look. But I am thankful we can wear jeans to work. They are so comfortable. I had not worn jeans in a long time, when I am heavier I do not feel comfortable wearing jeans. My legs are thick it and it seems like in jeans all you would see is thunder thighs.

Today is one of my less busy evenings. True Image and then ………………………….
I will most likely do some washing and tidy up J Need to keep things in order.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Day 41 – It’s all about God – God approved

Lord you are so faithful to me ! I love You for You being You. You provide me with what I need and you know me so intimately. Thank You giving me the wisdom to know when I should move on things in my life and when should allow others to move. You are so amazing. I thank You for my relationship with You.

Last night’s Life Group was awesome. The ladies connected and were able to open up and show some transparency. They are hungering for your love and for this I am grateful. Lord bless them and keep them encouraged with your love. We discussed gluttony and how it is a sin in our lives. We did a really good job defining it and showing examples of it in our lives. Thank You Lord for removing the nervousness and not giving me butterflies in my stomach. Lord I surrender myself to you to use for your bidding. Praise God ! I sincerely mean this ! You are Great and Worthy to be Praised.

Healthy Life Style – This program is helping me to embrace life and love the Lord at a deeper level. I am living my life like it is Golden and enjoying things in the moment. Recognizing that God is in control of everything and in knowing this I know He loves me and is protecting and providing for me. Lord I need your help in the area of working with non believers I am having difficulty dealing with others who do not have a loving relationship with You. I recognize I am wrong in my attitude but it is that I want to share Your goodness and want them to experience You in Your fullness. I humbly ask for help !

Style – Fashion Styling – I write about this because it is important for me. I designed this blog in honor of my mother, who was a Godly woman with extraordinary strength and faith in God. She taught me to honor God and love people. She was also a diva and taught me about personal care and caring for how you appear. She never got the piece about healthy eating and as far back as I can remember she was over weight, but that did not stop her from styling herself to the best of her talents. She loved beautiful things, and loves to have things in order she led an orderly life in many areas of her life. I saw her suffer from diabetes, hypertension, stroke, and finally heart condition. All of these illnesses were directly related to her unhealthy eating. I wished that she had got IT. But she didn’t. I know she would bless and celebrate with me in my path to healthy eating. She absolutely loved to dress me up when I was a child. I was like her lil black Barbie. Side by side we were beautiful black women. She was always the first to tell me when I looked amazing and the first to tell me to take it off LOL She was classy and believed in dresses touching mid knee or below and honoring God by covering cleavage. In other words she was modest. It taught me early on that you don’t have to show it ALL to be beautiful. I have learned that men are visual beings and I respect this and work hard to help them keep their focus on God. I am now very careful to honor God in my wardrobe at work and in the community and church. Now if you see me on Saturday, you will see a sister with no make up on and some sweats LOL But it is all Godly ! Because it is all about God. I want to be able to be fashionably and represent God and be an example of well put together looks that are God approved.

Hey I am feeling bad, I have left my dad out. He was a good man, Godly man and a minister who loved the Lord. He didn’t get the healthy food thing either. But boy oh boy he tried, but his will power would take over. We had a joke in the family about him, he would eat the diet meals and his regular unhealthily meals and gain even more weight because of eating this way. Funny, Funny man. He had a sense of humor out of this world. This is where my parents were strong together they both were humorous individuals. I mean slap your knee funny. He was a hard hard hard worker with an excellent work ethic. I always remember him having 2 jobs. My mom worked mostly to clothes me and her. LOL He prided himself on excellent credit A1 credit. I wish he could have left that in his Will J He believed in paying his debts. Did not have put maybe one credit card. He was a SHARP man as we would term “suited and booted”. But he did have an eye for the ladies which was not a good thing. A year or two ago I forgave him for making my mother’s life miserable and keeping our home in turmoil. But I realize that was there marriage and he was a good dad to me. Probably more information than you needed to know about my family, but I needed to write it and release it. I love transparency !!!!!!!!!!!!! WOW WOW WOW

Thank You Jesus for giving me such a wonderful woman parents.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

40 Days – For Me and For Others

God this prayer is one of gratitude for all Your love and understanding. I stand in awe of your love. You are everything to me. You have been faithful to me through it all. I give honor to You and I am very careful to give you the Praise ! Amen !

Lord I want to do Your bidding in my life. This seems so wonderful to me, to walk in Your path and living in your will. I know you have a plan to prosper me and have given me a life of abundance. You have giving me an abundance of love and opened up my heart to see You and as the amazing Creator that You are. Amazing!

Yesterday was somewhat frustrating at work. I am so blessed, so truly blessed to believe in a God that works in my life. My work life can be so stressful, when I allow my flesh to surface. I am working on humbling myself. I need to work so I need to submit.

God please guide ! Help me ! I know that I need You in my life. Please allow me to know that this is of You and that they are not operating in the flesh. Let me be special and adored in a Godly manner. Allow me to be respectful and open to trust. Thank You Lord ! Thank You Lord !

Last night’s meeting was really good. I look forward to the fellowships and the shares. My sponsor was the qualifier, she is such a wonderful woman of God. God I thank you for giving me boldness and courage to step up to the plate to serve. I am working my 90 days and plan to serve in the program as I am lead. My eyes have been open to so much and I am grateful. So much about why I worshipped food. The food was blocking my service and worship to God. Maybe not for others but for me. I hear myself in each story, I want to be able to have a God filled share in order to help others. God you have honored me by providing me with this program and I want it to help others. I look forward to my mornings that are peaceful and communicating with my sponsor is such a spiritual experience. I truly experience God as we use our time to give God the glory for our lives.

Lord bless our Life Group tonight. Let Your power be amongst us. Let us work together as women trying to help another and ourselves. We thank you for our group and leadership. Women of moderation. The name of the group is so appropriate.

OK OK OK, this morning I had a yearning desire to weigh in. According to my home scale I had dropped 2 lbs since the 29th. Putting me closer to my personal goal. I want to be about where I am but want to lose not need to lose so I need to draw close to God. I want to focus on toning my arms, abs and thighs. By summer I would like to be much more toned in these target area.

Closet issues – OK I have been shopping, I need to put some attention on organizing my things so I know what’s up in order to pull together fashion forward/backward (vintage) looks LOL I will work more on organizing this weekend. I have weigh in at True Image on Saturday a.m. and then go to Seed Team. I should be home by 1:00. I need to dedicate this time to organizing. I will take Tree’s advice and begin to breakdown Nique’s room to organize my clothing and accessories. Yeah, this is gonna be work, I may employ someone to help me out. I will think this out.

Until we chat again ! Byeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Monday, November 7, 2011

Day 39 - Wonderful Awesome Weekend

Day 39 - Wonderful Awesome Weekend

Thank You Lord for pouring into me ! I want to say that I am grateful and that I want to live in Your will and do Your bidding. Please guide me Lord, and allow me to see what You have designed for me. I need clear discernment and I move forward. I want to trust You totally in this area of my life, give me courage. I want to make Godly decisions. Give me what I need to lead my group tomorrow night, allow the ladies to be blessed. Thank You Lord.

Amazing service, I had not been in 2 services for sooooo long. It was so well worth the investment of time. God I want to serve You and do Your bidding. I needed to hear the message as I help parent Jayden who is strong willed. The leadership of the church recognized the Prayer Ministry for our commitment to prayer. It was really nice and the members got to learn about the ministry. I feel so wonderful during worship and praise and I am so glad I have so much freedom to praise God and give Him the glory. I am grateful for my relationship with God. God has grown me up some J I can feel it. It’s a wonderful feeling.

After my Saturday morning workout I got to spend Saturday morning with Jayden. It was fun to see him explore EVERYTHING in his enviroment. He is something else :) I love his lil self :)

Tonight I have my FA meeting, I am looking forward to fellowshipping with the group. I am asking for courage to do a reading, God you helped me before and I am asking for more strength. I know it is You who gives me the courage. I want to be able to help and serve others.

My meal plan is working for me. Thank you Lord ! I am able to go on with my life without food ruling me. This gives me a quiet peace. I thank You for allowing me to be Your vessel. Tree met with her sponsor Saturday and I am so proud of her for taking this important step. She really needs this program. I am grateful for the program.

I did some awesome vintage thifting over this weekend. I discovered a new spot for vintage clothing. Totally awesome and fairly priced. I will check this place out on a regular. Tree and I went back, I think I may go back and get the vintage Versace shirt and I need some men button down. I got two best finds, one being an Georgio Armani blazer at the sale at Joseph Beth. Awesome designer pieces. I am drawn to vintage due to the quality of the clothing and it connects me to Oliva my mama. Styling was something my mother did well. She was a head to toe Diva. Some of the clothes are defintitly styles of her era and my youth. I loved to see her dress up she was a beautiful woman as she would say a beautiful Black woman. She disliked loud colors and cheaply made clothes. Vintage pieces are constructed very well and are more reasonable than current retail items. It is definitely a win-win. Another thing, the clothing is so lady like and some is totally glammed out. I tend to seek the lady like apparel and the chic looks. I did some research this weekend on CoCo Chanel, interesting lady. I never knew she grew up in an orphanange. It helps me to understand designers when I explore them, it gives me a differenent appreciate for their designs. Her line gave women especially working women a classic look that still works to this this. Her models moved so nicely in her garments, it was amazing to see them on the runway. Finding vintage pieces is a good feeling. Another plus is it is a one of a kind item. There is only that one on the rack. She prided herself on being proud of her dark skin. I am so grateful for this because she instilled in me my inner and outer beautiful. That is one thing that made her even more amazing, she poured into me and taught me how to me a “Good girl” and she led by example. She was a godly woman. She made sure she taught me the importance of smiling, helping others and be a support to others. God blessed me with Olivia. She allowed God to use her in so many ways. I need to take some OOTD (outfits of the day) photos to upload. I don’t have a camera right now on my phone.

I had lots to say ! Felt good getting it out

Sort of a frustrating day. My work life can be difficult to deal with, when I am operating in the flesh. So difficult ! I need to let go and allow God to work in this situation. But I have not given it to God totally. I am grateful to have this career and job. Every few weeks there are changes, and then more changes. Coworkers are quitting which ultimately means more work for me. I appreciate prayer.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Day 35

I want to give You the praise and the glory for everything You have done for me. I am excited about You and thrist for You. For this I am glad.

Yesteday, I missed out on my bible study group. I was at Ms. Juanita but we talked about the goodness of Jesus so it was well worth the time J Ms. Juanita is a wonderful young woman of God. I love her spirit. I am praying for God’s continual blessings in her life. On top of that she rocked my hair LOL While at the shop I was able to connect with a couple of my church family members. LOVE THEM !

At work, our supervisor had a meeting with us and it was one of those non motivational meetings. She is not a team builder, but she is a good company person. So overall I guess she is good for our agency. I disagree with lots of what she does but I have to respect her role/position in my life as she is over me. God gives me the strength to work and communicate with her.

God give me strength this day Lord to do what I need to do and to operate in Your will.
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Lifestyle – Eating for me is such an awesome experience. I love the food that is before me. Yesterday during my lunch I sat and studied the word of God for my Life Group class. I need the Lord to build me up as a witness to his word. Give me the words to encourage others in healthy lifestyles.

I want to organize my closets and clean the kitchen this Saturday. It does not appear that I have anything special planned for Saturday.

Relationships – My relationships with family and friends are good and healthy. I am praying that God will give me what I need to begin to open myself up to being in a loving relationship. WORK WITH ME LORD !

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Day 34

Day 34

Lord God You are the Lord of Lords and the Prince of Peace, my everything. I adore your name Oh Lord. Thanks for creating me as I am. Use me and I ask that I live in Your will.

Yesterday, was yesterday ! It was a very productive day. I accomplished things at my workplace and in my personal life. I listed my priorities and when I looked over them this morning, I could check them off. I even did something special I checked out a different Goodwill and did some thifting. I picked up a nice long brown maxi skirt. It will look nice with a t or turtle neck belted. It was $3.50 and when I took it to the register it was discounted to $1.99. Excellent deal ! I will put it in the cleansers on Thursday when I pick up. This morning I picked up my thifted blazers and 2 dresses from the cleaners, they look amazing. I actually put one of the blazers on in the cleansers and wore it to work as a coat, it is the black wool one. I added a scarf and a fushia long sleeve T. I am loving the deals.

Tuesday’s Life Group was amazing. We talked and shared and it was good for me and hopefully everyone. Leader and I discussed my role as assistant and mapped out what we will be doing in her absence.
· Lesson 6
· Need sign in sheet (will get one from Constance tonight)
· Special topic of interest
· Discuss accountability to our partners

I have my Recovery Life Group tonight. I am expecting a wonderful group of learning the word, sharing and fellowship.

I ordered a Clarisonic and I believe it will be delivered today. I will begin a cleaning regiment in hopes of giving my completion a glow and thoroughly cleaning, reaching into the pores. I will continue to use my gentle facial cleansers it is good and reasonably priced. I plan to get some of the Mac makeup remover to take surface makeup off. I also ordered NARS Tahij (sp) blush it is a beautiful shade of orange and it will work nicely on my brown completion to warm up my cheeks. J I love make up !!!! I need to pick up the black and brown Milani liquifer pencils, shipping was too much on Amazon. I also want to pick up the Suave dray shampoo to help keep my hair clean in between shampoos with Juanita. I will see Juanita tonight for a new do. Praise God.

Day 34

Day 34

Lord God You are the Lord of Lords and the Prince of Peace, my everything. I adore your name Oh Lord. Thanks for creating me as I am. Use me and I ask that I live in Your will.

Yesterday, was yesterday ! It was a very productive day. I accomplished things at my workplace and in my personal life. I listed my priorities and when I looked over them this morning, I could check them off. I even did something special I checked out a different Goodwill and did some thifting. I picked up a nice long brown maxi skirt. It will look nice with a t or turtle neck belted. It was $3.50 and when I took it to the register it was discounted to $1.99. Excellent deal ! I will put it in the cleansers on Thursday when I pick up. This morning I picked up my thifted blazers and 2 dresses from the cleaners, they look amazing. I actually put one of the blazers on in the cleansers and wore it to work as a coat, it is the black wool one. I added a scarf and a fushia long sleeve T. I am loving the deals.

Tuesday’s Life Group was amazing. We talked and shared and it was good for me and hopefully everyone. Leader and I discussed my role as assistant and mapped out what we will be doing in her absence.
· Lesson 6
· Need sign in sheet (will get one from Constance tonight)
· Special topic of interest
· Discuss accountability to our partners

I have my Recovery Life Group tonight. I am expecting a wonderful group of learning the word, sharing and fellowship.

I ordered a Clarisonic and I believe it will be delivered today. I will begin a cleaning regiment in hopes of giving my completion a glow and thoroughly cleaning, reaching into the pores. I will continue to use my gentle facial cleansers it is good and reasonably priced. I plan to get some of the Mac makeup remover to take surface makeup off. I also ordered NARS Tahij (sp) blush it is a beautiful shade of orange and it will work nicely on my brown completion to warm up my cheeks. J I love make up !!!! I need to pick up the black and brown Milani liquifer pencils, shipping was too much on Amazon. I also want to pick up the Suave dray shampoo to help keep my hair clean in between shampoos with Juanita. I will see Juanita tonight for a new do. Praise God.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Day 33 – Pressure lifted – Pressure back on

Thank you Lord for giving me the tools I need to do what it is you have planned for my life. Help me to grow in your word and in my obedience. Give me more of you, I want to accept You in all areas of my life. You are so worthy of the honor and the glory. I adore You.

Last night’s Harvest Fest was fantastic. The children had such a good time. I must say the adults did too, just a bit tiring. Jayden enjoyed himself. I got to see and fellowship with so many people that I had not seen in awhile. Tree went as Minnie Mouse she looked cute.

The pressure is lifted and I am slowly but surely getting use to my new size body. I will begin to focus on toning; arms, stomach, leg (thighs). I am listening to what people are saying to me and some is very encouraging. I have decided that I will go into maintained after losing 5 more pounds. The excitement of losing weight kept me losing, I must now focusing my excitement on maintaining and get my head ready for this long long life long journey. Pressure back on ! Maintain and tone YES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!