Welcome to Olivia's Daughter....a blog that I created in March 2010 to document my blessed journey of healing. Since I began this blog, my mother has gone home to be with the Lord along with my son, Chris Reshaud Jordan, who was murdered in October 2009. After these two devastating events, I felt forsaken by God. I cried out to the Lord seeking my purpose in life. Throughout this experience, I had to make the choice to surrender to a life of worthlessness or to live my life to the fullest, a life filled with abundance and love.


God has strengthened me. I am seeking Him daily and and working to live in His will which is leading me to my purpose and passion. I think of Chris and Olivia constantly, but I have turned this over to God. I want God to use me as his vessel giving Him the glory.

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Monica Denise Bellamy - Home Going

To my followers thank you for your patience during my loss.  I have got to work this out.  I got to express my feelings in words for Monica Denise Bellamy.

I have uploaded photos of the bookstore and coffee shop she created at her church.  I would help her with the vision over phone conversations.

God almighty extended peace to us yesterday.  Our family loved Monica, her friends loved Monica, her coworkers loved Monica.  She built personal relationships with everyone she touched.  Thank You Lord for giving us Monica for 43 years.

The Lord gave us good travel to and from Michigan.  To my knowledge our entire family has made it by to Cleveland safely.  Thank You Lord !

I never ever imaged going to Michigan to attend Monica's Home Going.  Every time I have gone to Michigan it has been to spend with Monica, Allen and Doris, hanging out, shopping, talking and having fun.  This trip I asked the Lord to give me strength and peace.  The Lord has never failed he gave me peace.

The service was amazing, her home going celebrated her life.  People discussed the personal and professional impact she had on them.  I knew her personally as a family member, I knew she was a hard worker for the State of Michigan, but I did not know the life changing these she accomplished, working with the Social Security Administration to provide benefits for thousands of homeless individuals.  But I should have known, sometimes I would call her after 6 and she would still be at work, writing grants and taking care of work business.  She was smart where it counted, helping others.  She was pushy when it counted, helping others.  She was a gentle fighter, when it counted helping others.  She got things done.

Personally she was super amazing, her smile, her gentle diva(ness) shined all the time.  She loved to make the world bling.  Her mother put special attention to detail to make it a Monica event.  Monica could decorate for events and interior design like a real professional.  She took such pride in her jewelry, I remember when she did the Essence show and displayed her jewelry, she was so proud to be able to showcase her jewelry in such a manner.  Her jewelry company name was "Everything Pretty".

She did so much for so many people, her family and friends will remember her always.  I will treasure every moment we had together, the phone calls, the texts, email.  I could never get her to sign up for facebook LOL  She was a constant in my life.  She enhanced my life like no other, she introduced me to the world of Makeup two of her girlfriends mentioned it and I could identify.  She was the first person to call me DIVA.  She spoke words of encouragement to me and other women and wanted us to feel good about ourselves.  She was eighteeen years old when she did my makeup for my wedding.  WOW.  I remember her last visit here on mother's day she asked me to do her makeup and I did.  I said to her you do makeup and she looked at me and said I like the way YOU do it.  I took that as a compliment because she was particular about her appearance and I knew that meant I was doing a great job with makeup application.

I remember when we would celebrate Christ together.  She was so glad when I surrendered my life to Christ and had formed a relationship with God.  We hung out before that but after that we got closer, because we could celebrate Christ.  One day she was singing "He Saved Me, I already been to the water, I already been baptised"  but you see she was singing a new version so me being old school told her Oh that a remix to a old school gospel.  She didn't realize it so I sang it to her, we laughed and laughed.  Then we taught each other the version we knew.  From that day on we sang that song in our celebration to God.

Her purity helped to keep me focused.  A young woman keeping herself pure was something new to me.  We would have conversations about her purity and she did not want to "mess it up" staying pure was important to her, she wanted to be obedient to God.  She knew I understood so we could talk about it and encourage one another.  Sometimes she would sort of test me to challenge my genuiness, and I knew it, she would ask me questions about my purity and I could stand by God's word.  In this area she wanted genuine feedback. In this area she trusted me.  Praise God and it encouraged her walk of purity.  She would smile as we discussed it as if to say this is ok, I am not the only one !  She understood keeping boundaries with men, I learned this from her, someone 10 years my junior.

Ok OK OK, as you can tell I LOVED Monica Denise Bellamy, my monibel, my babygirl, my Monicas, my cuz, she wore many titles to me.  My favorite was My Monica, because it made her smile.

Continue to pray for her mother Doris, brother, Allen, Father Al and niece Alundra.

RIP




Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Well Done My Good and Faithful Servant|Monica Bellamy

Monica Bellamy RIP
                                                   
                               Funeral Services are scheduled for Saturday, June 9th
                                         at 11:00 a.m. (10:00 a.m. family hour), located at 
                                         Church of the Lord Jesus Christ - 404 Ceasar Chevez, 
                                          Pontiac Drive.

I have not blogged in a few days as I had not been inspired.  As you know writing for me is therapeutic.  So I am writing this for me and prayfully you will be blessed by it.
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Lord Bless Our Family !  Bless the many friends of the family !  Give us peace Lord as we prepare for the upcoming services.  Lord Your Will Lord !
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As you may know, or not know, My cousin Monica has gone on to be with the Lord.  Since I heard the news on Sunday I have been almost in a zombie like state.  I am in shock and disbelief.  Since Sunday I have continued to go to work and trying to stay on my normal day routine as possible.  

I am talking with friends about this loss and trying to sort it all out.  There are two things I am dealing with.  One being my feelings, like am I being selfish because I keep thinking I will not see her again, I will not have fun with her anymore.  We loved the same people.  When my mother was sick I knew she loved my mother and prayed for her healing.  She and my mother were cool like that.  We loved things that were beautiful, whether it was fashion, home decor.  We were ride or die.

Monica and I shared common interest, she was the person in this world who was most like me.  We love to do decor, we loved to make jewelry, we were both social workers, we both agreed on others that we discussed.  We had very like minds.  So I enjoyed her company.  I was always excited when I knew she was coming to Cleveland or we were going to Michigan.  I don't have that anymore.  I don't want to be selfish in my thinking.  I loved her ..............

Two I think about her and the dreams she had.  The conversations we had about her dreams and want she wanted to do in life.  Then I am saddened because her dreams cannot be fulfilled.  I feel bad because she wanted to do so much more.

I know God ways are not like ours, and she is in a better place, and to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.  So I know she is in excellent hands.  When I think in this way I rejoice in my heart knowing she is free now, in a glorified body.  I have even been wondering if she sees my mother and Chris and if they are rejoicing in the Lord together.  If they are talking about us the family and friends left here on earth.

So I will continue to miss her but in a good way.  I have the hope and faith in a God that is big, one who rules above all, and a loving God.  So I am at peace knowing I will see her again.

My conversations with friends have been long, actually for hours at a time.  I probably have worn out their ears.    Seeking out God in all this has helped me dig deeper and has built me up in my walk with the Lord.  I know my time on earth is only for a short time, and while I am here I will serve the Lord for I will have life in eternity with the Lord.

 I am here for a purpose and I have been blessed in a way in which God has revealed my purpose.  I will walk in His will, even if it is difficult and I don't understand.  I will do His will.  When the Lord calls me home I want to know He is pleased with the gift of life He gave me.


Monday, June 4, 2012

Monica Bellamy RIP - LOVE YOU

                                       RIP Monica - I loveYou

                               Funeral Services are scheduled for Saturday, June 9th
                                         at 11:00 a.m. (10:00 a.m. family hour), located at 
                                         Church of the Lord Jesus Christ - 404 Ceasar Chevez, 
                                          Pontiac Drive.
 
                                                   
Monica Bellamy, of Auburn Hills/Southfield, Michigan, was my cousin, she was much more to me than a cousin more like a little sister.   I was about 10 years old when she was born,  she was the first grandchild of my aunt.  At that time she was the family's baby, and we spoiled her and to this day she holds a special place in heart of her family.   She loved her family and was always available to offer support and guidance.

As a woman she had many gifts; jewelry designer, event planner, special event decor.  Two weekends ago she did a beautiful candy station at a friend's graduation party.  Photos below show her most recent event decor.  She was so proud, as soon as she got home she called me and sent me photos.  We shared some of the same gifting so we would also share ideas about decor.  She also had an excellent eye for interior design.

She held a master's degree in social work.  She worked for the State of Michigan her entire professional career. She loved her career choice and worked hard to help the community of the homeless in Michigan.

She enjoyed cruises and would take a cruise or two every year.  She made a point of celebrating her birthday on a cruise ship.  She made life long friendships from her travels.

Most of all she LOVED the Lord.  She had values that I admired.  She practiced purity in her walk with the Lord.  She served in her church; developed her church's bookstore and coffee shop.  She loved her church family and was a founder member of Annointed Voices of Praise.

I love you Monica !  RIP

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